(Akiit.com) We can say that the Black woman has carried a great deal throughout our time in America.
Because the Black family has been under siege for that entire time, much was required of the Black woman.
Quite frankly, her strength is one of the reasons we have survived as a race where other races could not have.
We know that even up to and through the first half of the last century, the Black woman was holding things down while her man left psychotic violence and stark oppression in the South to pursue jobs and freedom for his family in the North before standing on the front lines in the Sixties to secure rights for his people.
But we also know that Welfare came to destroy the Black family by making it easier for the family to survive in the man’s absence.
And we know that integration helped to destroy the Black community, which was not prepared for Black flight or the devastation of Crack Cocaine nor the privatization of prisons.
We also know that feminist propaganda has silently polluted the minds of many Black women, who now view Black men as the enemy.
As a race, we’ve come through a great deal. And for the most part, we did it together.
The difference was that in previous times when Black men were under siege, Black women worked with them to hold the community together and we were all better for it. Now, many Black women feel that they have it all together, that they have done enough for “us” and that it’s time for Black men to get it together.
Any Black woman who is alive and under 50 today is under some beautiful delusion to pretend to be tired of suffering anything at the hands of Black men or tired of doing anything for Black men, because it just hasn’t happened in their generation.
Frankly, Black people as a race haven’t done anything for themselves in decades—it’s been all about self-preservation as individuals.
If you are a Black woman under 50 today, the heavy lifting was done by your grandmother, not even your mother. You haven’t run any slaves through an underground railroad, no one has legally raped and/or forcibly impregnated you, and you haven’t carried the burden of the race on your back.
Many of the Black women who claim to be tired haven’t even held a family together, if they even have a family of their own.
We didn’t begin to seriously deteriorate as a race—men or women—until the end of the Sixties, when many Negroes decided to become shiny and new and abandon everything remotely connected to the community.
Really, any contemporary Black woman who feels that she has been carrying the race is crazy because the race is doing worse than ever.
Yet, some of today’s Black women act so terribly put upon, as though they are perfect and Black men are holding back the race.
In response to my column called “Man Up,” chastising men to stand up and be men, one insane woman wrote “not only are we (Black women) ready…but a lot of ‘outsiders’ are ready for Black men to finally get their sh-t together, too.”
Really? Black women and the world are simply waiting for Black men to stop being lazy bags of crap? The answer, of course, is no.
But what is most disturbing is such a sentiment accompanied by little concern about the lagging of Black men.
Black women, even if you believe yourselves to be ahead of Black men, why aren’t you concerned about the hole in MY end of OUR boat? If you believe that we are sinking, you must realize that you will sink as well.
And while no thinking Black man has a problem with Black women working to improve the condition of Black women, the destruction comes with pretending that Black men are in some way holding Black women back.
Some Black women are even retelling the story of the Civil Rights Movement, claiming that it was oppressive to Black women, yet the only “evidence” of that is a quote from an obscure member of the Black Panthers, who admitted to being a rapist and a lover of white women, but who never represented any great portion of Black men–then or now.
In order to truly believe this lie, we have to ignore the Black women who were a vital part of the Movement. We would also have to ignore the FACT that the Civil Rights Act of 1965 was the first time that the rights of women were mentioned since they were enfranchised.
And, we would have to ignore the FACT that Affirmative Action benefited Black women more than Black men.
But, really, the question is this: Why are we even having that discussion?
The answer is that some Black women find power in their own victimhood, which gives them an excuse for poor behavior, while accepting no responsibility.
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