(Akiit.com) I’m so excited as I’m going to visit an old friend… Yes through the internet I have been able to reconnect with some people from my past which is a good thing… Can’t believe it’s been nearly 15-years since I last spoke with John… We both are married now, and devoted fathers… Anyway I must clean Parmigiani watch, as I accidentally dropped it in the tub this morning… Yeah that was a huge mistake…

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(Akiit.com) Like many the economy has taken it’s toll on me… I for one am just happy to have a job, and still a house to call home… Sadly many of my friends aren’t so lucky… This is a wake up call for this great nation, as we need to stop taking so many things for granted… On that note, I need to purchase a led light bulb for this beautiful lamp my wife picked up… Anyway let me email my sister, before logging off…

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(Akiit.com) I went to see the Tyler Perry movie “Madea Goes to Jail,” in which Perry plays a wise-cracking black grandmother, Madea, short for “Mother Dear” and ebonically pronounced “muh deah.”

With an extensive criminal past that includes “supersize stripper,” attempted murderer and check fraud artist, Madea is a near-cult figure among many African Americans, especially women. Thanks in large part to them, Perry’s comedic creation debuted as the No. 1 movie in America over the weekend, raking in $41 million and 34 percent of the weekend moviegoing audience, according to box-office tracker Exhibitor Relations.

At the AMC Magic Johnson Capital Centre 12 in Landover, where Madea is being shown 14 times a day, I was hoping to get a clue as to why this man in drag is so popular. And with the movie featuring guest appearances by Whoopi Goldberg, Dr. Phil, Judge Mathis and Al Sharpton, perhaps I’d even get in a laugh or two.

Boy, was I wrong — on both counts.

All around me you could almost hear the funny bones cracking — deep guttural laughter coming not only from kids in the audience but from my peers in the AARP set, as well.

And there I sat, silently ranting: There is nothing funny about this black man in pantyhose. And where is all of this cross-dressing-black-man stuff coming from, anyway? First, comedians Eddie Murphy and Martin Lawrence star in high-grossing movies as the fattest, ugliest black women that Hollywood makeup artists can conjure up, and now here’s Perry with his gussied-up version of the same butt of the joke.

By the way, I don’t want to hear diddly about Robin Williams as Mrs. Doubtfire or Milton Berle in high heels. Having a black man play super mammy is not the same thing. Perhaps it would be were it not for America’s perverse, systemic and centuries-long efforts to humiliate African men and women and turn them into slaves.

The only good a Madea movie could possibly do would be to remind us that the scars of oppression are deep and enduring, often operating below the level of consciousness, then breaking out in the most bizarre manifestation of self-hate and self-sabotage, including pathetic images on the big screen.
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(Akiit.com) Some discussions are simpler than we’d like to think. Sometimes there is only one answer, one response, one appropriate ending to a debate. This in fact would be one of those occasions.

A few weeks ago Mo’Kelly mentioned how he worked for the Grammy Awards (NARAS) back in the day and how he doesn’t watch or follow awards shows anymore.

Yet, as fate would have it, as my remote shuttled through the various channels Sunday night, I stopped on the Grammy telecast…if only because Stevie Wonder was performing at that moment.

Mo’Kelly doesn’t want to digress right off the top, but memo to NARAS. Never let the Jonas Brothers on stage with a musical legend ever again.

Ever.

That was beyond horrible. If you’re going to sing Superstition with Stevie Wonder, knowing the words to the song is a pre-requisite, as well as not moving a blind man’s microphone while he’s singing.

Damnit…I digressed.

OK, now that the silly is out of the way…let’s get to the serious.

Anyhow, what Mo’Kelly didn’t see was the performances of either Chris Brown or Rihanna. And neither did any of you, come to think of it. Unless you’ve been incapacitated, you know by now that Brown was arrested and released on bail in relation to an alleged domestic violence assault on aforementioned girlfriend Rihanna.

According to multiple news sources, the account of Rihanna’s injuries are severe, if not horrific in nature.

They include major contusions on both sides of the singer’s face, serious swelling and bruising. Her lip is split and her nose bloody. In addition, there are reportedly bite marks on one of her arms and on several fingers.

There have been no reports of injuries to Brown as of this editorial.

Rumors have swirled as to the precipitating factors which led to the beating, from possessiveness, to STD infection, to simply a garden variety argument which spiraled out of control. None of us really knows and we may not ever REALLY know the root cause of the argument. The truth and entertainers rarely occupy the same space.

But none of it REALLY matters. This discussion is simpler than most would like to think. There is only one right answer to this puzzle, only one appropriate course of action in these conflicts.

Unless she has a dangerous weapon and his physical being in legitimate danger, there is never a good enough reason to hit or physically abuse a woman.

Never.

It does not matter if hypothetically Rihanna slept with Chris Brown’s best friend and passed an STD back his way…he has to walk away. Because in addition to catching a disease, he also catches a case and quite possibly loses his freedom. It’s a lose-lose proposition.

It does not matter if hypothetically Rihanna slapped the taste out of his mouth for supposedly cheating on her with Ciara (as the tabloids would have you believe he did). Chris Brown has to walk away. Call the police if need be…but walk away. It’s a guaranteed lose-lose proposition otherwise. It is inevitable.

Don’t get Mo’Kelly wrong, if a woman puts her hands on a man, she does so at her own risk. It’s a dangerous game for women to play and many men “don’t play.” It’s wrong to hit a woman, but women should value their own safety enough to understand that not all men agree with Mo’Kelly. You mess with the bull, it’s quite possible you will end up getting the horns. So ladies, discretion is the better part of valor. It may be wrong for a man to ever hit a woman, but only a foolish woman places principle over common sense.
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(Akiit.com) Barack Obama is the first person of color to be elected President of the United States of America. He is also one of the youngest, least partisan and most technologically savvy, and in my opinion he’s the first president to life coach the country. His campaign used many of the techniques I teach in our life coaching certification course. I was fascinated with his methods to heal, inspire, motivate, empower, and ultimately move people to action. I sat night after night listening and watching his every action and it became clear that Mr. Obama is also a great life coach.

So how is Obama life coaching us? Take a look at just three of the most basic but critical methods life coaches use that Obama used to get millions of Americans off their couches and out to vote for change. Here are a few of his strongest coaching methods used to inspire life changes in all of us:

Authentic

Obama’s ability to be authentic helps all of us feel connected to him and to feel a sense of genuine care and trust. This allowed all of us to have a civic discourse throughout the country about the reality of the challenges our country is facing. In the coaching industry, coaches are the facilitators for the client to make change. If coaches are not authentic, a client will find it difficult to open up about the issues he or she is facing.

Empowers and Motivates

As we agonized over gas prices, groceries, and lay-offs Obama gave all of us hope. He spoke of the possibilities of our individual powers and abilities. He helped reignite our sense of purpose and ability to change our nation. Life coaches are charged with this same duty to their clients. Coaches differ from other forms of counselors because they spend time cheerleading, encouraging, and empowering their clients.
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