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When Things Go Wrong: How To Deal With Difficult Times.

May 29, 2020 by  
Filed under Relationships, Weekly Columns

( It doesn’t matter how together your life seems to be, sometimes things go wrong. Often these aren’t situations that have anything to do with our behaviour; it’s just life throwing us a curveball. Occasionally, when our backs are up against a wall, or if we are going through a tough period, then we make mistakes. If you have experienced that, you know how hard it is to recover. 

The most important thing when you make a mistake is to own it. You are only human, and all of us are flawed. Situations can arise in our lives which make our behaviour seem strange to other people. The truth is, we can’t get everything right all of the time. Mounting pressures, particularly financial ones, can affect our mental health and before we know it, we have said or done something that we regret. Taking ownership is the first step to moving forward and getting a grip on the situation. We all have to be accountable to grow, adapt and learn.

Depending on the situation, there are always people around you who can support you. They can also help you to reduce the effects that the situation has on your life. For example, if you have an OUI arrest and are facing losing your licence, you might find a lawyer who can help you get a hardship license. This could save you from losing your job if you lose your licence. Essentially granting you certain conditions where you are allowed to drive. You will need to demonstrate that you understand what you have done and be willing to take any punishments that might come your way. If you can do this, and remain calm, then a judge will help you wherever they can. 

Sometimes the problems that we end up in aren’t of our own making at all. Such as a partner cheating on you. This can be an utterly devastating time. Discovering that the person you trusted completely, could let you down so badly. Situations like this can lead us to fall into despair; often, we are left confused by what has happened, particularly if we thought everything was fine. 

In a situation like this, you should focus everything on yourself. You need to think about what you may have done for the love to break down so much, however, remember that all breakups, even ones that are unfair or sudden, are because two people couldn’t make it work. You shouldn’t blame yourself for their lack of integrity, but you should use the experience to grow, this will ensure you are happier moving forward. If you are struggling with your emotions, then you need to talk to someone. This could be a friend or family member or maybe, you might find it easier to speak to a counselor. 

Whatever situations come your way, if you have accountability but face them with honesty and an open mind, then you will get through even the worst of circumstances. 

Staff Writer; Greg Love

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