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Finding The Balance Between Being A Pushy And Supportive Parent.

August 17, 2020 by  
Filed under Education, Weekly Columns

( If you have a small brood looking to you for guidance, it’s only natural that you want to provide them with all of the love, nurturing, care and protection that you possibly can. However, there is a fine line between being smothering, pushy, and supportive. Striking the balance can be challenging. You need to give your children the freedom to make their own mistakes but also provide them with the guidance to help them not make the mistakes in the first place. This sounds illogical and confusing which is why this parental balance is so difficult to find. Read on to discover how you can be a responsible and supportive parent without being pushy.


Many children are academic and find school a breeze. They fly through the education system needing little prompting to complete their homework, because it comes easy to them and they have a real thirst for learning. If your child is struggling with school, don’t put too much pressure on them. Not everyone is academic, but this doesn’t mean that they cannot have a successful career in adulthood. Even though your pushiness may come from a place of love, try to help your little darling explore future education alternatives more suited to them. Apprenticeships and learning trades can be ideal for those kids who adore practical activities and enjoy working with their hands. Art and technology can also be explored rather than maths and science. While you may have dreams of your child becoming a doctor or a lawyer, consider your offspring’s happiness and fulfilment rather than your own.

Teen Years

When your brood is little, they are probably a joy to have around. They hang off your every word, listen, and love spending time with you. When they hit their teenage years, they may be more keen to find their own independence. They might want to go to parties, learn how to drive, venture out with pals, and enjoy more privacy. Give them a certain level of slack with some ground rules. If they begin to break these ground rules, this is when trust is broken and you may need to consider hackers for hire to ensure that your child isn’t Whatsapping an individual inappropriate for their age. Intervention may be needed but in a supportive and helpful way.

Support Their Dreams

Allow your child to have a vast array of experiences growing up and encourage them to be faddy. It’s ok if they only spend three months going to soccer club, a couple of weeks at dance class, or a few months learning the piano. By exposing them to many experiences, they will eventually find the activity that they are passionate about. This is when you can support them by driving them to events or shows, helping them to make friends and find a community that they belong to outside of school. You never know, that drama class that they adore every weekend could end up being a career option for them in the future.

It’s crucial that you can find a balance between being a pushy and supportive parent. Your relationship with your child will be so much healthier for it.

Staff Writer; Bobby Short

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